I gave a speech at a conference once that was mainly
composed of vegetarians and vegans. A
woman approached me afterward; she was very obese, with stringy hair and bad
skin, with a serious scowl on her face.
She said, “Sarah, I really loved your speech. Thank you so much for coming. I have a question for you: I’ve been vegan for 3 years now, but when I
try to tell people that they had better change to a vegan diet because they’re
going to kill themselves eating all that fast food and crap that they eat, and
that they are contributing to the deaths of innocent little animals and the
destruction of our planet, I can’t get anyone to listen! They don’t listen to me! I practically scream at my parents and
siblings about it every year over the holidays, yet they continue to stuff
themselves with turkey and pumpkin pie!
How do I get them to listen to me???”
I really felt for her.
I think at some primal level, many vegans just want to scream at the
world to wake up and see what we see, to learn what we’ve learned. But I encourage you: Stop, and remember when you used to eat
turkey and pumpkin pie for Thanksgiving; when you didn’t know about the horrors
of the slaughterhouses (and I mean really
know – not just heard fourth-hand from someone, but read or watched about it
yourself.) Remember a time, even, when
you did know about something but didn’t open your mind to really take it in. So
it is with everyone’s journey. People
won’t hear you give a few sordid statistics at the dinner table and decide to
go vegan right then and there. However,
if you approach them right, you might just open their minds at your first
encounter with them over veganism … you might just set a great example at your
first encounter … and that could be the beginning of someone else’s life
changing as dramatically as yours has.
So here are a few tips for being a vegan…
- Don’t
get angry
- Be
understanding (you were probably once where they are now.)
- Have
patience (most people won’t believe you’re going to stick with it. It may take years for people to believe
that you are serious and actually start listening to you.)
- Set a
good example (you may want to wait on touting the health benefits until
others can actually see an impressive difference in your health.)
- Let
people come to you
- Cook
for others (when you’ve figured out some really great vegan recipes, start
inviting people over in small groups of about 6-8 – so that if someone
asks about your diet, the whole table might actually hear what you have to
say.)
Finally, remember to always keep this in
perspective: If no one ever listens, if
no one ever cares … wake up each and every morning with the beautiful knowledge
that today you will save another
animal. That today you will be healthier. That
today you will do your part to save
our planet. At the end of the day, you
can encourage and inspire and educate others until you exhaust yourself, but
you can only control what you put in
your mouth. Let your food choices be a
poem of compassion for all who witness.
